My relationship started out as a long-distance with Stefan. It was tough but it was worth it (obviously, duh!). I have only been with Stefan for 5 years (this month) but it feels so much longer than that. It hasn’t always been easy, we have done our fair share of bickering and fighting along the way. We still manage to get annoyed with each other once in a while but at the end of the day, we will always love each other despite all of our flaws. Today I am going to share some healthy relationship habits I have learned in my relationship over the past 5 years!
Always make time for each other
Making time for each other can be really difficult sometimes when you each have your own routines and schedules for the day. For me, it’s hard to change my schedule if Stefan comes home early or even if he is taking a day off. But, to be happy with each other, make the time. Stefan and I TRY to have a no-phone rule later in the evening so we have time to talk about our days and just to spend time together. I also sit down with him while he is eating dinner so we have more time together.
give each other the space they need
I love spending most of my time with Stefan, especially since I work from home and being alone a lot kinda sucks. Although I do have a cute pup to keep me company. But sometimes it’s always good to spend some time alone to do our own hobbies or go out and spend time with friends. I know when Stefan is off for a week at a time, I start to want some alone time, especially because I need to get work done. So, if I am done with work I will either go shopping on my own or go watch my favorite TV show while Stefan is doing his own thing or playing with the pup.
Encourage each other to grow
When I wanted to start my blogging journey a year ago, Stefan was my number one (and only) supporter! He always helped me with anything and everything I needed and he helped me through a lot of stressful times. Stefan has helped push me to grow my blog and to grow as a person (in a great and amazing way).
Stefan wanted to start his journey into nutrition, I helped him figure out a budget so we could afford it. I also helped him by just listening to all of the information he thought was interesting and pushing him through some annoying times.
We have both helped each other grow in many different ways since we got together 5 years ago and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
have each other’s back
This is so important to me. I ALWAYS want my partner to have my back even if they don’t agree with me fully. I would NEVER throw Stefan under the bus in any situation. Supporting your partner is any decision they make (unless they go against something you truly believe in) will strengthen your relationship in so many ways.
give each other compliments
There’s not one day that has gone by that I haven’t complimented him. I always tell him his hair looks good, his skin looks amazing, I’m proud of him for working so hard, he is so smart, and many other compliments. He also compliments me too every day. Saying positive things about your partner encourages positive thinking about yourself too. Which is good for both partners.
have open communication
Communicate. Communicate. Communicate.
Communication is the biggest part of having a healthy relationship. If you can’t talk with each other about things, then what’s the point of being together? I know for some people, sharing feelings can be difficult but it’s SO IMPORTANT. Don’t expect your partner to be able to read your mind when you’re upset/hurt/annoyed. You need to be able to openly communicate with each other. But also be sure to share more positive feelings to your partner as well!
Always go out on dates
Continue dating even if you’re married. Stefan and I try to go on date nights a few times a month. We also like to try a new restaurant or go do some new activity that we’ve never done before/haven’t done in a long time. I look forward to our date nights/days all the time. I love going out and spending quality time with Stefan without watching tv, playing on my phone, or worrying about walking Nova outside.
Figure out each other’s love languages
What is a “love language”?
A love language is a way of learning and understanding how someone wants to be loved. Depending on your personality, you may have 1 or more of these languages. You and your partner may have different love languages and that is why it is so important that you learn your partners. It’s a healthy way to connect and make sure you both feel loved and understood.
The five love languages are:
Words of Affirmation
This love language expresses your love for your partner through words.
“You look amazing today”
“I love your smile”
“You know how to make me happy”
“You’re so amazing”
Acts of Service
This love language is expressed by doing things for your partner. This love language takes a bit more effort and time but worth it.
Doing the laundry, washing dishes, going grocery shopping and walking the dog.
This love language is about giving something to your partner that makes them feel loved. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you always have to go out and buy something for your partner. You can just simply get them some flowers or buy their favorite treat from the grocery store after they had a long day.
This love language is about giving your partner all of your attention. No distractions, just you and your partner spending time together. Paying more attention to your phone or watching TV can hurt your partner if this is their love language.
The last language is all about physical touch. The person with this love language is all about feeling connected to your partner even just by holding their hand. If you don’t give your partner this type of love, then they will feel disconnected to their partner and it will end up hurting them.
I am not here to tell anyone that their relationship isn’t healthy and happy without doing any of these things. I am just wanting to share a few things that I have learned over the years in my relationship, seeing other peoples relationships, and researching things on the internet.
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